I don’t believe we’ll ever be 100% balanced, but there are ways to make balance more attainable. The important thing is working out how to bring more balance into your life and how you can let go of things that affect your balance.
There’s only so much you can do in a day. If you’re trying to cram in too much into your day for the sake of “balance”, it’s only going to overwhelm you. You’ll also feel guilty when you can’t do it all. Instead, look at your week and plan in simple terms what’s actually reasonable for you in terms of time and energy.
The feeling that we “should” do something is the worst. It only makes us feel trapped into doing things that don’t always serve us. If you don’t want to go to go somewhere or do something you don’t have to ! You also don’t have to feel guilty about not being social if it’s not what you need at that moment in time. Take the pressure off yourself and focus on activities with people (or no people) that give you balance and make you more calm.
You cannot accomplish anything if you're unhealthy. Get plenty of rest, exercise and eat properly. Many of us think we can burn the candle at both ends, eat rubbish get very little exercise, and still function properly. You may be able to get away with this for a while when you're young I certainly did !! , however, at some point coming from a 40 year old !! this life style catchs up with everyone and burnout is a real possibility.
Ideally, set aside time each day for an activity that you enjoy, such as walking, yoga - gentle exercise or listening to music. Or, allow yourself to unwind after a hectic day by reading, meditating or taking a nice hot bath always a favorite with me.
4 Simple Steps to Achieve More Balance
Balance does not entail cramming in every activity possible. Examine your day and decide what's important to you; then set your boundaries. You may be in the process of juggling a career, looking after your family or studying. Depending on what stage you're at in life, your focus and energies will be different. Avoid becoming overwhelmed by juggling too many big projects in your life at one time. As the saying goes, "do not bite off more than you can chew".
Create a Plan
Be organized and plan ahead. Take time at the beginning of each week to assess what needs to be done. Make a to-do list in a planner or calendar for upcoming appointments, impending exams or meetings to attend. Be sure also to allow for time for yourself and your family. Taking the time to connect with family and friends will recharge and make you more efficient in the long run. We always try to prioritise this at the weekend and spend lots of time with our kiddos as two self employed people our working week is so busy.
Expect the unexpected.
Rather than get stressed and upset, learn to roll with the punches when something over which you have no control happens. You could get stuck in traffic, your car gets a flat ( happened this morning as Kieran was rushing to a meeting !! ) or your little dudes could can get sick …. Stuff happens. We've all experienced the unexpected. If you accept that anything can happen at any time, it's less likely it throw you off your stride when it does. Be able to adjust your day and breathe through it .
Note also, that there are times when achieving balance may not be possible. For instance, you may have a family or career crisis that needs your immediate and undivided attention. It may require an exceptional amount of your time and resources. When that happens, do whatever it takes and when things go back to normal take time to for you.
Stay Positive & Practice Gratitude
Begin each day with the intention of making the best and most of it. It may not always go as planned, but it can go more smoothly if you put it in perspective. Part of living a well-balanced life is learning how to deal with adversity, unforeseen events and uncertainty. If you practice not letting things get to you, you will not only learn to live a well balanced and less stressful life, you will learn to live in and savor the moment. Once you've done everything you can within your control, let your life unfold. Be prepared for the future, but don't worry about it. Always be grateful for all that you have and don’t focus on what you don’t have or think you may need. The benefits of are endless. People who regularly put this into practice by taking time to notice and reflect upon the things they're thankful for experience more positive emotions, feel more alive, sleep better, express more compassion and kindness, and even have stronger immune systems. Sounds good to me !!
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